You probably know by now that my father is in heaven. And you rightly assume, as I have never mentioned her being dead, that my mother is alive. And you are right. Although, as you know for me death is all relative. My father is still very much alive even if most of the time I am too deaf clairaudiently to hear him. And that’s ok. I probably don’t need the distraction given how full on my life is.
But what you don’t know, unless you have read my book, is that I have a mother in heaven too. And may I ask, if you haven’t bought my book, why? What is your excuse? Or you couldn’t find the buy now button: well here it is. He he he.
Getting back to my story. I have a mother in heaven. In the book, I call her Mariane (most of the names in my memoir have been changed to protect privacy). She used to work for my father since before I was born. Officially, she was helping with his private practice, answering the phone, managing client appointments but she was also involved in our private life. She cooked, cleaned, washed, ironed and hugged like a queen.
Mariane is the reason why I am sane. She gave me the love that I so craved and was denied on so many levels although officially we were a perfect family. She was warm, cuddly and she adored me. What was there not to love about her? Hey? She died six months after Dad died. And I love the idea that I now have a mother and father in heaven. She came through a medium a few months after her death when I was feeling bereft. I couldn’t feel her and wanted to much to connect with her.
So with Mothering Sunday coming up in the UK on the 26th of March, I want to honour her. Mariane could not have children and it was her biggest wound because she simply adored them. When she started working at my Dad’s, she took us under her wing and mothering us divinely. So this is why I want to honour her on Sunday as well as all the Mothers in heaven but also the Mother Figures in Heaven. I did wonder, when I moved to the UK, why it was called Mothering Sunday and not Mother’s Day as it was back in France where I come from. But now, I love it. Let’s honour all the Mother Figures in our world. And for me, I want to honour our Mother Figures in Heaven.
So on Sunday, I invite you to join my group: My Father Who Art In Heaven and honour a mother figure in your life that is now in heaven. Post a photo, maybe write a poem, or a blog and share with us so we can all honour her. Note: I am sorry this offer to join the group is not offered to men. Our group is exclusively female. It’s got to do with empowering women… but that’s another subject.
Now here is another question that has been bothering me for a while. Why is Father’s Day not Fathering Sunday? We should honour all the father figures in our lives that have inspired us and taken us under their wings. Right?
(c) Ange de Lumiere 2017