There was a fascinating discussion about this recently in a Facebook group I belong to. A woman was told that contacting her loved ones in heaven was as wrong and that they should be left in peace. Is that true? My own mother told me off for disturbing the peace of my grand mother a few years after she died. Again, was my mother right?
Now here is my take on it. Absolutely not. It is as ludicrous as saying your mother on earth (assuming she is alive) would not want to you to call her. Why would your mother (or best friend) not want you to call her as often as possible? She love you. Ever since you left home, she has been missing you. Your mother, if she has her heart in the right place, cannot get enough of you.
If you have a good relationship with your mother, and she is now in the spirit world, of course she wants you to get in touch. In fact, it is likely that she is with you most of the time. As your guardian angel is. The spirit world is only just a thought away from us. It is enough for us to wish to hear from them and they will be here like a shot. No, they do not rest in heaven. This is a myth. My experience is that my father is with us most of the time. Whenever I do something that he used to love doing on earth, he tags along to get to enjoy it again vicariously. In the beginning however, I was not aware of him. And the reason was that I didn’t expect him to be. Also, they can be in more than one place at the same time. My father was at this funeral and with me thousands miles away from it, at the same time.
Now let’s suppose you had a difficult relationship with your mother. She is now different than she was when she was your earth mother. Not substantially different in essence but she is wiser and more loving. She no longer has the human blindfolds that are placed on us the moment we are born. She’s no longer damaged by trauma or brainwashed by dogma. My own father who was a die hard Catholic when he was on earth, had a huge awakening. In fact, I was told that he was disorientated and even angry when he realised how much he had been lied to by the Church. He had resisted everything I stood for, once I trained as a healer and a clairvoyant. And of course, he would. These things are considered evil by the Church.
So your relatives and even the people who hurt you want to make peace with you once they are in heaven. And it is important for you too. When they die, they do a life review where they are shown the consequence of their acts and everything they said or didn’t say. It’s not a punishment. It’s a learning experience. Maybe that’s what some religions refer to as the judgment. Except it is done with love. There is no judgment in heaven. Only love. So if your mother hurt you or abused you, she will feel awful about it when she dies. She won’t be able to justify herself any more. She will be shown the bigger perspective. And she will want to put things right. Of course, it is up to you to allow her to make amends. It is up to you to forgive. For years, I was angry at my mother for her lack of courage at taking responsibility for who she was and what she did. She always had a good reason. She never apologised for anything. But I know that after she dies, she will be a very different person.
I have already forgiven her. And I did so for me, not her. I could see that she was damaged b y life. She has big attachment issues with her mother. And her mother with her mother. She was caught in a pattern. She never had the courage to say: this will stop with me. I did. But I did it for selfish reasons because carrying all that hurt and bitterness was hurting me. And ultimately, it would hurt my children. But this is the subject of another post.
If you are unsure about whether there is a life after death, I urge you to read books by mediums. I love anything by Sylvia Browne and Betty Shine. There are many more. Next, book a session with a reputable medium. When I did so, my life was changed. For the better. All the women’s tales about heaven were blasted for good. How refreshing it was. I felt lighter and happier. Besides they are usually a lot of fun. Because our loved ones in heaven keep their sense of humour. In fact, even Angels love laughing. Nothing is a serious as we make it to be.
(C) Ange de Lumiere 2017